Coaching & Therapy

Posted by on Jun 6, 2010 | 0 comments

  People often ask me what is the difference between coaching and therapy. Much is made of the differences, usually by one side seeking to disparage the other side. Therapists claim that coaching – which is three decades old and largely unregulated – lacks the rigor and substance of psychotherapy and is little better than snake oil. Meanwhile, coaches argue that therapy is backward-looking, inefficient, and pathologizing. But these self-serving critiques do neither side justice. Both disciplines have their place in helping people to lead happier, more fulfilling lives. Choosing one (or...

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This is Only a Test

Posted by on Apr 26, 2010 | 0 comments

  Today I spoke with Gretchen Rubin, best-selling author of The Happiness Project, about her book, happiness, and coaching. Our conversation touched on the importance of taking action. Gretchen’s project was all about test-driving a wide range happiness theories and practices to see if DOING things made her FEEL HAPPIER. In pursuit of happiness, she read a lot (I mean a lot), and thought a lot, but the focus was on doing (a lot!) In my coaching practice, I expect my clients to get into action right away. Sometimes clients are caught off guard by the need to take action before they...

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What Are The Hard Questions?

Posted by on Sep 23, 2009 | 0 comments

  On my home page I refer to “hard questions,” but what do I mean? Hard questions are the ones that we politely avoid most of the time. They are the questions that, when asked, upset the apple cart, demand that we change. They challenge assumptions, require honesty, make us sit up straighter, and bring us together. For example: You are leading a meeting at which you are discussing implementation of Plan A. There is no energy or enthusiasm in the room as you assign action items. Suppose, instead of forging you asked, “What are we really trying to achieve and will Plan A get...

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Now, More Than Ever

Posted by on Aug 5, 2009 | 0 comments

  Times are tough – we see it all around us. The economy is faltering, people are losing their jobs and their homes in numbers that make even those who have a relatively secure job feel nervous. So maybe your first response to coaching is, “That sounds nice, but I can’t afford inspiration and fulfillment right now – I’m lucky to have a job and I just want to keep it.” To which I reply, “Yup, and coaching will help you do just that.” More than ever, you need to understand your mission, perform at your best, and be recognized for your contributions in the workplace. In...

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The Not-Knowing

Posted by on May 4, 2009 | 0 comments

  Do you sometimes feel like all aptitude and no direction? That was me for a long time. I had confidence in my capacity to do something, but could never figure out what that something was. I was surrounded by people who were driven to pursue one path or another – family members and friends and boyfriends who were passionately pursuing a dream while I slogged along in corporate law – and it felt to me like I was just missing that passion gene. Instead, I felt stuck. I would have given anything to know what I should do. Does this sound like you? Are you capable, maybe even ambitious, but...

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How I Found My Coach

Posted by on Mar 11, 2009 | 0 comments

  If you’re looking at this website you may be wondering how to choose a coach. There are so many out there – how do you make an educated choice, especially if you have never shopped for a coach before? Well, here are a few basics. First, you can start with a referral from a friend or colleague, look at the International Coach Federation website, or just do a Google search to generate some names of coaches. Check out their websites and see if their message resonates. Beware jargon and quick-fixes! But whatever you do, make sure you have a sample session. In my experience, it comes...

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